A private space for Michael High and the family

Author: Grandad

3 – What was happening in the world at the moment you were born?

This is an interesting question, because I didn’t read the papers when I was first born! So I have had to look up some news items. The only thing that I know is significant about my birthday is that I shared my birthday with my father’s father. It was also my grannie and grandad High’s wedding anniversary. Nothing changed much on the day that I was born. However, 1953 was quite an eventful year.

  • 31 January–1 February – The North Sea flood of 1953 kills hundreds of people on the east coast of Britain.
  • 13 April – Ian Fleming publishes his first James Bond novel, Casino Royale.
  • 16 April – The Queen launches the Royal Yacht Britannia at John Brown & Company shipbuilders on the Clyde.
  • 24 April – Prime Minister Winston Churchill receives a knighthood from the Queen.
  • 25 April – Francis Crick and James D. Watson publish their description of the double helix structure of DNA in the paper Molecular structure of Nucleic Acids
  • 2 June
    • The coronation of Queen Elizabeth II takes place at Westminster Abbey, celebrated as a public holiday.
    • The Times exclusively carries James Morris’s scoop of the conquest of Mount Everest by a British expedition on 29 May.
  • 19 September – Sir Hubert Parry’s 1916 setting of William Blake’s “Jerusalem” first appears as a permanent feature of the Last Night of the Proms (televised on the only available channel, the BBC).
  • 26 September – End of post-war sugar rationing. This meant that I was one of the first of a new generation of children who had terrible teeth.
  • 2 November – The Samaritans telephone counselling service for the suicidal is started by Rev. Chad Varah in London.
  • There were some significant new products available for the first time in 1953
    • Matchbox toy vehicles are introduced by Lesney Products of London.
    • Laura Ashley sells her first printed fabrics.
    • J. C. Bamford of Rocester introduce the backhoe loader, now universally referred to as a JCB.
    • E. Gomme introduce the popular G-Plan furniture range, which may make it more retro than Abigail realises.

4 – What kind of child were you when you were small?

Well, I was small, though I was long for my age and I was a boy. In my day, babies did not have a choice as to whether they would grow up as a boy or as a girl. Quite frankly, I think that it is a daft idea to give children a choice as to what gender to grow up into. I think that we should play the hand that we have been dealt and be sensitive to those who have been dealt a confusing hand. My grand children can ask their mums to explain all that!

Otherwise, I think that I was a perfect child. There are few pictures of me as a small child. This is the only one I have that is scanned at the moment…

This is me with my father, Bernard, outside the flat in Hornsey

You cannot see it from this picture, but for the first five years of my life, I had blonde hair.

5 – Were you shy or sociable when you were very little?

This is a difficult question to answer. To be shy is to be nervous or timid in the company of other people. Before I could walk, my parents and I had moved to a new house in Burpham.

The house was in the first phase of what turned into a large housing estate over the following ten years. All the children in the neighbouring houses were all much older than me. So as I never went to play school and just played with my sister, I really did not know what it was like to be in the company of other people.

6 – Did you have a super-hero that you wanted to be?

This would be a simple question for my grand-children to answer, but for me the question never arose in my childhood. I simply did not know who super-heros were supposed to be. Before I started school at the age of five, I did not know that there were such things as comics, with pictures. My only knowledge of television came from the age of four when my grandfather passed on his first TV, bought to watch the coronation of Queen Elizabeth in 1953. It was a black & white model that could only get the one channel from the BBC. Colour TV’s only came in when I started at secondary school. More to the point, it was only when I started at primary school that I discovered that new TV’s could also receive a channel from ITV which not only had adverts but also showed cartoons of the likes of Popeye!

My parents did not approve of comic books, which probably explains why it took me so long to learn to read. They would not take me to the Saturday morning cinema which showed all sorts of exciting things (mainly American). I think that they were basically snobbish! It was only in 1962, when I was nine, that a magazine was published that they approved of and which I was allowed to spend my pocket money on. Look and Learn was a British weekly educational magazine for children published by Fleetway Publications Ltd from 1962 until 1982. It contained educational text articles that covered a wide variety of topics from volcanoes to the Loch Ness Monster. It did not have super-heros, though one edition did have a piece on Prince Charles…

Introduction

“Why dost thou weep in thy gentle sleep?
Awake! Thy father does thee keep.”

“The Land of Dreams” – William Blake

Author’s Preface to the book

Every life knows its difficult moments. One of mine was on 23rd of October 2001, when the doctors in the hospital told me that my mother had an inoperable form of cancer. On my way back home and during the weeks that followed, I spent a lot of time trying to handle the prospect of my mother dying. It was an emotional time, filled with feelings of sadness, anger and despair.

The hardest part was thinking about how my future would be – a future without my mum. That is why I created The Mother’s Book, and now The Father’s Book. I didn’t want the opportunity to pass to ask my parents all the questions that matter most – the questions that we never find the time to ask.

The world is full of special fathers. And it seems to me that everyone has moving, special memories of their fathers and funny, delightful stories. Stories about fathers who would rather demonstrate their love for their children by repairing a flat tyre than by sitting down to talk. About fathers who were good enough to wait round the corner when they collected their children from a party, so they wouldn’t lose face. And about fathers who were there for their children as a shoulder to cry on when they broke up with their first love and thought the world would end. But sometimes men need a helping hand in telling you how they feel, and this is where The Father’s Book will help.

It is a book born of my realisation of the truth in the saying: “You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone”. And of how precious time is and how little of it we dedicate to the people who matter most. I hope The Father’s Book will help you to connect and share; that it will not only bring happiness as you discover the little things you never knew about each other, but will also create bonds between you, and bring back memories long-forgotten.

Elma Van Vliet

How old are you as you fill this in?

I am 67 years old, and counting! I started filling this in on 12th May, 2020.

How old am I as you fill this in?

Abigail is 41 years old. She was born on 24th February, 1979. Her younger sister Naomi is 39 years old. She was born on 13th March, 1981.

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